Friday, September 14, 2018

Forgive, Forget, and Let Those Close to You Know You Care

Hello internet ...

It's been many months since my last post and I apologize for my absence

Many things have happened to me over the past two years. I was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic, and nearly died as a result of the diabetes attacking my nervous system ...  I'm very happy to report that thanks to alternative "medical" treatments, my health has been restored and I'm back to my old self ...

My message today is a simple one ... Life is short and in the end, nothing matters but love - Money, material possessions, and the pursuit thereof  will mean absolutely nothing when the end comes ...

Yesterday (September 13, 2018) I received a call from my Nephew in Florida to tell me my Sister had died ...She was only 61 -

My Sister's passing is the reason behind the title of this posting.

My Sister and I very rarely saw things "eye to eye" - She and I were very different people and over the years there were many disagreements. Our Father passed in 2008 and our Mother in 2010 - These two events caused MAJOR problems between my late Sister and I - Problems which resulted in our not speaking to one another for 8+ years .. It had gotten that bad -

My Nephew told me that my Sister had been asking about me and even had him convey Birthday wish's to me this past year - I wish she would have done it herself ... My Nephew told me she was waiting for the "right time" (whatever that means) to reach out to me personally .. Sadly, that day will never come now.

Over the past day and a half I've been searching my memory for happy times we shared together in our lives and I've managed to find more than I thought there were - These are the memories of my I will hold on to.

Learn to forgive, forget and let wounds heal - Tell those you care about (and care about you) how you feel while they are still here to appreciate it - Forget petty differences and let your heart be open ... Bitterness, resentments, anger etc  are damaging emotions that have absolutely no benefit to you or anyone else -

I will always regret that my Sister and I were never able to sit down and talk things out. Now time has run out, and we will never know how the other truly felt - As sad as I am that my Sister is gone, I think that missed (or should I say ignored) opportunity hurts the worse -

Please tell those you love / care about how important they are to you - Never let anger, resentment, petty differences (that really don't mean anything) harden your heart - Again, life is far shorter than any of us truly know and one day it will be gone .. To quote my old, departed friend "Machine Gun Jeff" .."It's later than you think"

To my Sister, I'm so sorry for all the pain we caused one another in life - I pray your soul found peace & that you've been re-united with Mom and Dad in God's great mystery ..  I have always loved you & I will never forget you

In loving memory of Jeanne Louise Davanaugh - May 1957 - September 2018

May flights of Angels sing thee to thy rest - Rest in Peace

Monday, January 1, 2018

On this 1st day of a fresh year, I take pause to reflect of the year just passed

On this 1st day of a fresh year, I take pause to reflect of the year just passed to remember the good, the not so good and indifferent - I think of new friendships / gained, and remember those I lost. I take inventory of the things I did over the year that brought success, and those that did not –

Before us lies a fresh, clean slate. An opportunity to discard old negative, non-productive thoughts, and habits and replace them with new positive ones – Forget old pains, forgive old grudges. Learn the lessons these things taught you and move forward. Life is so short to remain “stuck” in the past and / or to continue repeating old self-destructive habits / patterns that will only bring the same un-happy results – The choice is absolutely yours to make.

This New Year offers the opportunity to push the “refresh” button, and focus our energy on developing / re-developing ourselves in to the people we want to / and should be.
We only have one shot at this thing called life my friends.. Don’t screw it up!

2018 is in your hands and your hands alone. Create the life YOU want instead of letting people, places, and things decide your happiness for you

I wish you all a safe, happy, healthy, prosperous 2018

Your man in the mountains 

Sunday, December 31, 2017

I'm walking into 2018 with a clear heart and mind...

I'm "borrowing" this from my longtime friend Sharon - 

I've made a couple of modifications and made the message my own. I hope my friend doesn’t mind. For me, it says it all. I intend to honor these words, and more importantly, live by them each and every day of my life.

Over my lifetime, I've faced many challenges. I’ve met and defied death twice, I’ve achieved great things and through my professional career helped change the lives of many hundreds of people / families nationwide facing foreclosure, save and keep their homes. Of all my life’s accomplishments (so far) this is what I’m most proud of. I've also suffered my share of pain and failures like everyone else however, I never give or gave up. I never will!

2017 was by far the most challenging year of my life, and one that taught me how short, and truly precious life is. I lost people I sincerely loved and respected, and miss their “light” every day. I was diagnosed with a so called “incurable disease” that if untreated, could and would kill me, and it almost did. I am / was blessed to have good friends, family and colleagues that cared, kept me positive and strong in the darkest hours. I thank God for each and every one of you every day. Your strength, love, inspiration and encouragement helped me turn this around, beat this disease and get healthier and strong again. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I love you all.

I'm walking into 2018 with a clear heart and mind... 
If you owe me, don't worry about it - you're welcome...If you wronged me, it's all good - lesson learned.. .If you're angry with me, you've won - I let it go...If we aren't speaking, I’m sorry but, it’s cool, I will always wish you well...If you feel I've wronged you, I sincerely apologize - it wasn't intentional. I will endeavor to right those wrongs.

2017 taught me that life is too short, and precious for anger, holding grudges and extra stress or pain! Appreciate every day of life you’re given and NEVER take anything for granted as life can change in the blink of an eye. Be kind to all creatures. Love those who love you and especially those that don’t. Practice giving and forgiving, you’ll be a much happier person for it. Remember that no matter how “bad” you think your life is, there is someone or some creature far worse off and suffering in silence.

If you’ve been blessed with good fortune, reach back and help those who have not. We are all on this journey of life together. We are all one, the human race. We all eat, sleep, think, laugh, cry and dream. Collectively we can achieve anything we set out to accomplish.
Whomever you are, wherever you are, it all starts with you … Stay positive, stay focused, and always be the best you can possibly be.

I wish you all nothing but health, happiness, love, and success in 2018! Happy New Year!

Your "man in the mountains" 

Big Ed