Saturday, September 7, 2019

My Journey with Pancreatic Cancer Documentary Part 2 - The Oncologist Visit



Tuesday August 27.2019 I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and I've decided to document my journey... Yesterday, September 06 2019 I went to my first Oncologist visit .. Interesting stuff!
There is no cure and it is one of the most lethal cancers out there ..
I'm not out with a fight but as my clock is now ticking off, I plan to fight this all the way to the end using CBD oil and other alternative treatments -
I've placed a link to a CBD Company that I know makes quality products (I use them myself) below -
I AM NOT making money from any sales, etc !!


I want to share CBD with everyone without all the MLM crap - God bless all of you & I'll see you in the next update / video -

God Bless you all
EJ "Big Ed" Benko


Feel free to share you experience, strength and hope in the comments 

Monday, September 2, 2019

My Journey with Pancreatic Cancer Begins Part 1 - The Diagnoses -


This past Tuesday August 27.2019 I was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and I've decided to document my journey...

There is no cure and it is one of the most lethal cancers out there ..

I'm not out with a fight but as my clock is now ticking off, I plan to fight this all the way to the end using CBD oil and other alternative treatments - I've placed a link to a CBD Company that I know makes quality products (I use them myself) below - I AM NOT making money from any sales, etc!

I want to share CBD with everyone without all the MLM crap - God bless all of you & I'll see you in the next update / video -
God Bless You all ..
EJ "Big Ed" Benko

P.S. Feel free to comment with your experiences, hope, etc

Tuesday, February 26, 2019

Chasing Rainbows - all that glitters is not gold!


Happy Tuesday everyone ..

Today I want to briefly discuss a destructive phenomenon I see happening everyday among "newbie" online marketers ..

I call it "chasing rainbows" ...

It reminds me of the story of the "kid in the candy shop" who see's so many tempting things, they can't focus on any one .... It's also like watching a compulsive gambler desperately trying to hit it "big" or recoup massive loss's ... It's a sickness and one that causes 98% of ALL online marketers to FAIL.

As an experienced marketer, I feel sorry for these people ... They are out of control and don't recognize it - I see it every single day and it breaks my heart because I know there's not much I can do to stop their self destructive path aside from trying to "warn" them of the danger ahead!

This brings me to another sad thing I've noticed ... These "newbies" seem to now be "empowered" with the wisdom of the ages after only a few weeks online - Even more dangerous because now they think they know what they're doing ..

Every day I see them posting ads on places like Facebook, etc hoping that social media / free advertising will make them wildly successful .. Wrong! 

I also see a "new breed" of "dream merchants" peddling the same old, recycled concepts to these people .. Case and point, I recently attended a webinar hosted by a well known, respected marketer - A marketer I have history & have made money with ...  The irony of this 2 hour sales pitch (disguised as an alleged "work shop") was the presenter railing on and on about people wasting their money on "shiny objects" and countless "courses" and then proceeded to sell HIS COURSE to these people for $1000.00! What I found to be the funniest part of this "pep rally" style "work shop" is that the course he was pushing is information people can acquire on their own / free of charge if they took the time to learn their craft instead of thinking paying $1000.00 plus will magically transform their lives! Have people honestly become that lazy?!

I have been "out here" for over two decades, I learned my skills the hard way, by rolling up my sleeves and jumping in! Yes, I've been fortunate enough to have been mentored by some of the online "legends" but, not one ever tried to sell me a course - 

Online marketing is constantly evolving and becoming more and more competitive however, technology has made it far easier then it was "back in the day" ... 

The one thing that will always distinguish the successful from the failures is a very simple thing & one that I don't believe can be bought or taught .. This simple ingredient is nothing more than motivation! Without it, you'll constantly be chasing rainbows and spinning your wheels out here! 

All you need to be successful online (or off) is passion, motivation and focus! With these simple things (all of which are found within ones self) you can achieve anything you desire! 

Learn / master your craft. Find / do what you love. Stay focused and motivated - Without focus / motivation and self confidence, NO course on the Planet will change your circumstances! 

Believe in yourself, change negative thinking to a positive "can do" attitude. Discipline yourself, remove old, bad habits and thinking, and you can and will change your life & the lives of those around you! 

Remember, extraordinary people are merely normal people with an exceptional amount of drive and determination! 

I'm always here to help if you need it so feel free to reach out to me if you have marketing questions or feel "stuck" .. I don't have all the answers (nobody does) but, I will use my decades of experience / success to help you in I can - 

This is your "man in the mountains" reminding you to .. 
Stay Positive
Stay Focused
Stay Motivated and ....
NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS!

EJ "Big Ed" Benko
http://Bigedz.com


Friday, September 14, 2018

Forgive, Forget, and Let Those Close to You Know You Care

Hello internet ...

It's been many months since my last post and I apologize for my absence

Many things have happened to me over the past two years. I was diagnosed as a type 2 diabetic, and nearly died as a result of the diabetes attacking my nervous system ...  I'm very happy to report that thanks to alternative "medical" treatments, my health has been restored and I'm back to my old self ...

My message today is a simple one ... Life is short and in the end, nothing matters but love - Money, material possessions, and the pursuit thereof  will mean absolutely nothing when the end comes ...

Yesterday (September 13, 2018) I received a call from my Nephew in Florida telling me my Sister had passed away...She was only 61 years old -

My Sister's death is the reason behind the title of this post.

My Sister and I very rarely saw things "eye to eye" - She and I were very different people and over the years there were many disagreements. Our Father passed in 2008 and our Mother in 2010 - These two events caused MAJOR problems between my late Sister and I - Problems which resulted in our not speaking to / seeing one another for 8+ years .. It had gotten that bad -

My Nephew told me that my Sister had been asking about me, and even had him convey Birthday wish's to me this past year - I wish she would have done it herself ... My Nephew told me she was waiting for the "right time" (whatever that means) to reach out to me personally .. Sadly, that day is now lost forever.

Over the past day and a half I've been searching my memory for happy times we shared together in our lives.. I've managed to find more than I thought there were. These are the memories I will hold on to, and let go / forgive the negative.

Learn to forgive, forget and let wounds heal - Tell those you care about (and care about you) how you feel while they are still here to appreciate it - Forget petty differences and let your heart be open ... Bitterness, resentments, anger etc  are damaging emotions that have absolutely no benefit to you or anyone else -

I will always regret that my Sister and I were never able to sit down and talk things out. Now time has run out, and we will never know how the other truly felt - As sad as I am that my Sister is gone, this lost opportunity will always hurt the worse -

Please tell those you love / care about how important they are to you - Never let anger, resentment, petty differences (that really don't mean anything) harden your heart - Again, life is far shorter than any of us truly know and one day it will be gone .. To quote my old, departed friend "Machine Gun Jeff" .."It's later than you think"

To my Sister, I'm so sorry for all the pain we caused one another in life - I pray your soul has found peace & that you've been re-united with Mom and Dad in God's great mystery ..  I always loved you & will never forget you

In loving memory of Jeanne Louise Davanaugh - May 1957 - September 2018


May flights of Angels sing thee to thy rest - Rest in Peace

Monday, January 1, 2018

On this 1st day of a fresh year, I take pause to reflect of the year just passed

On this 1st day of a fresh year, I take pause to reflect of the year just passed to remember the good, the not so good and indifferent - I think of new friendships / gained, and remember those I lost. I take inventory of the things I did over the year that brought success, and those that did not –

Before us lies a fresh, clean slate. An opportunity to discard old negative, non-productive thoughts, and habits and replace them with new positive ones – Forget old pains, forgive old grudges. Learn the lessons these things taught you and move forward. Life is so short to remain “stuck” in the past and / or to continue repeating old self-destructive habits / patterns that will only bring the same un-happy results – The choice is absolutely yours to make.

This New Year offers the opportunity to push the “refresh” button, and focus our energy on developing / re-developing ourselves in to the people we want to / and should be.
We only have one shot at this thing called life my friends.. Don’t screw it up!

2018 is in your hands and your hands alone. Create the life YOU want instead of letting people, places, and things decide your happiness for you

I wish you all a safe, happy, healthy, prosperous 2018

Your man in the mountains 



Sunday, December 31, 2017

I'm walking into 2018 with a clear heart and mind...

I'm "borrowing" this from my longtime friend Sharon - 

I've made a couple of modifications and made the message my own. I hope my friend doesn’t mind. For me, it says it all. I intend to honor these words, and more importantly, live by them each and every day of my life.

Over my lifetime, I've faced many challenges. I’ve met and defied death twice, I’ve achieved great things and through my professional career helped change the lives of many hundreds of people / families nationwide facing foreclosure, save and keep their homes. Of all my life’s accomplishments (so far) this is what I’m most proud of. I've also suffered my share of pain and failures like everyone else however, I never give or gave up. I never will!

2017 was by far the most challenging year of my life, and one that taught me how short, and truly precious life is. I lost people I sincerely loved and respected, and miss their “light” every day. I was diagnosed with a so called “incurable disease” that if untreated, could and would kill me, and it almost did. I am / was blessed to have good friends, family and colleagues that cared, kept me positive and strong in the darkest hours. I thank God for each and every one of you every day. Your strength, love, inspiration and encouragement helped me turn this around, beat this disease and get healthier and strong again. Again, thank you from the bottom of my heart. I love you all.

I'm walking into 2018 with a clear heart and mind... 
If you owe me, don't worry about it - you're welcome...If you wronged me, it's all good - lesson learned.. .If you're angry with me, you've won - I let it go...If we aren't speaking, I’m sorry but, it’s cool, I will always wish you well...If you feel I've wronged you, I sincerely apologize - it wasn't intentional. I will endeavor to right those wrongs.

2017 taught me that life is too short, and precious for anger, holding grudges and extra stress or pain! Appreciate every day of life you’re given and NEVER take anything for granted as life can change in the blink of an eye. Be kind to all creatures. Love those who love you and especially those that don’t. Practice giving and forgiving, you’ll be a much happier person for it. Remember that no matter how “bad” you think your life is, there is someone or some creature far worse off and suffering in silence.

If you’ve been blessed with good fortune, reach back and help those who have not. We are all on this journey of life together. We are all one, the human race. We all eat, sleep, think, laugh, cry and dream. Collectively we can achieve anything we set out to accomplish.
Whomever you are, wherever you are, it all starts with you … Stay positive, stay focused, and always be the best you can possibly be.

I wish you all nothing but health, happiness, love, and success in 2018! Happy New Year!

Your "man in the mountains" 

Big Ed 

Tuesday, October 3, 2017